Archive for the ‘body image’ Category

I don’t have much to say on this other than

YAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

For it’s Spring 2010 edition, models.com (see more shots on the model.com site) is featuring REAL women with REAL curves and are not photoshopping out the rolls or making them slimmer through computer magic.  Another check in the column of Be Beautiful, Be YOU!!!

It makes me shiver with antici – p – p -p – pation!  Celebrate with me that the fashion industry is getting the message.  And celebrate your beauty along with the beauty of these models.

Hugs!

Christie

www.thebadkitty.com

Just after talking about using “real” models on German magazine covers, this ridiculously photo shopped ad is released.    Is this a backlash against reality or just a really stupid choice by the marketing department?

Either way, it has me concerned.  The reaction has been unsurprisingly strong from the public.  The blog post on boing boing has, to date, received over 50 comments.  On photshop disasters, over 200.  This image is an obvious manipulation.  I don’t care how skinny someone is, when the hips are smaller than the head, there is definitely something up!  Compare that picture to this one. 

I have a sneaking suspision that it may have had some work done on it as well, but it’s not as obvious.  When the “adjustments” are inhuman, it’s easy to be outraged.  No one looks like that, yikes!  How ugly!  However, we’ve been looking at false images of models, celebrities and even regular people for years and have come to think that that’s what they actually look like.  The tabloids love to sell editions of “what they really look like” pictures.  Wow, they look like you and I do when we just get up or have no make up on.  Shocking!

So the question is, how long is it before we accept the ridiculously distorted images as reality?  We eventually become immune to things.  We get tired of analyzing and simply accept it as normal, regular, the way things are.

Be clear that reality is beautiful.  The manufactured is impossible.  Today is the day to stop striving for the impossible and accept the beautiful – reality.  Be in love with you, no matter where you are in your journey.  Only a worldwide wash of love for what is will stop the advancement of what can never be.

Be Beautiful, Be YOU, the world needs you!

Love you,

Christie

www.thebadkitty.com

This morning on Facebook a friend posted an article about a German magazine, Brigitte, banning models for “real” women.  Notices like that always seems to get women’s panties in a knot.  Yes, Yes, we think!  It’s about time!  Ban the skinny bitch.  Bring back the curves!

Up until today, I whole heartedly agreed.  As a 6′ size 12 woman, I always took exception to being called “plus” size by the fashion industry.  Ok, Ok, reality check!  At 6′, size 12 is average.  At 5′2″, it’s another story.  At 6′ size 2 is scarey.  At 5′2, it’s average.  It’s all relative.

There’s nothing wrong with being average.  There’s nothing wrong with being skinny – unless you’re hurting yourself to get there.  There’s nothing wrong with having a little extra baggage – again unless you’re hurting yourself.  If you’re eating or not eating because of feeling badly about yourself, there’s a whole other problem to be dealt with.

I’m sure many of you are still going, “hey, what do you mean up until today you whole heartedly agreed!  The fashion industry is making us all feel fat with all the super skinnies they put their clothes on, how can you not be outraged!”

Yes, I’m outraged.  I’m outraged that we are given a false sense of beauty.  That we are handed a bill of goods that 0% body fat is a good thing.  What I’ve changed my mind about is that ALL women need to be represented.  The skinnies – again, as long as it’s natural and not drug or vomit induced (there are girls out there like that, y’know!), the average and the large.

The backlash against skinny girls has created reverse discrimination.  We tend to hate the skinny girls.  How did they get so lucky?  Another reality check – we all have challenges.  We all have insecurities. We all have fears.  We all long for love.  We all have things that make us giggle.  We all have things that make us cry.  We are all freaking human!!!

And we are all freaking amazing!  We need to stop looking at the outside.  We need to see each other as beautiful individuals rather than body shapes.  Others won’t see us as beautiful until we see ourselves and each other as such.  Love the skinnies.  Embrace the biggies.  Squeeze the averages in between.  Take care of yourself and love yourself and no matter what size you are, you are worthy, lovely and deserving of your own magazine cover!

Be Beautiful, Be You!

Love ya, Christie

www.thebadkitty.com

It’s hard for we women to gain some perspective on what we really look like.  We usually see something that isn’t really there when we look in the mirror.

Here’s a little activity for you to do.

You deserve this.

Go to the mirror. Full length preferred. Naked is best. Set a timer for 5 minutes. Spend the 5 minutes alone with yourself in the mirror. Do nothing else. No make up application. No brushing your teeth. If the phone rings and you answer it, start over. Do 5 UNINTERRUPTED minutes.

Look at yourself.  Look from head to toe.  Make observations.  See what’s REALLY there.  Notice and be thankful for your body and all the hard work it does for you.  Think about the successes you’ve had and the struggles you’ve overcome.  Celebrate the beauty you see in the mirror.  Recognize how undeniably gorgeous you are just as you are.

At the end of the 5 minutes, look yourself in the eye and say, “You are incredible. You deserve everything you want. You deserve to be cared for. You deserve the very best. You are beautiful. I love you!”

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Go into the world my kitties. Go and spread the word about how wonderful every woman you meet is. Tell others about their beauty because chances are they don’t see it. Share your joy, your passion, yourself with everyone. Be brave.

I simply can’t say it enough – BE BEAUTIFUL, BE YOU! You are all my heroes.

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Barbie turned 50 this week. The iconic doll that has been played with by thousands of girls is an old lady. Boy, she ages well!

There are many debates around the influence of Barbie on our body image. I think she’s given too much credit. However, I don’t deny that there is some connection.

I heard an incredible story about the creator of Barbie this week. She was designed by Jack Ryan. His partner from Mattel at the time is often given credit for the design, however she only gave him the idea of creating a “grown up” doll. Up until then all dolls in North America were baby dolls. She had seen a doll with breasts in Germany and wanted something similar.

Jack designed Barbie after his ideal woman. After this was done, he also started to create dolls in real life. He expected the women in his life to undergo extensive plastic surgery to look like Barbie. One of his 5 wives died of anorexia and heart disease as a result of trying to have an unrealistic waistline. He even redesigned his Rolls so that the passenger seat swiveled backwards. He would then have friends sit in the back and have his latest “Barbie” in the car naked and turned backwards so that they could admire her.

Yes, this is all an outrage. Yes, there are still some women who voluntarily go through surgery and other insanity to look like the doll. All of this is outrageous, ridiculous, sad and makes me angry.

What makes me just as angry is that we ALLOW people to create this mentality in us. What makes a woman have such a low opinion of herself that she would stay with a man who insists she become not only someone she isn’t but someone who is not even remotely realistic?

Ladies, how many times have you in big and small ways allowed other people to say you weren’t good enough and tried to change yourself to their expectations? How many times have you thought you weren’t good enough in the body you have, the mind you have, the thoughts you have?

IT’S TIME TO STOP!!!!

The beauty of life is variety. The beauty of life is truth. The beauty of life is real! It’s time to own you. It’s time to BE BEAUTIFUL, BE YOU !

You are lovable as you are. You are BEAUTIFUL as you are. STOP TELLING YOURSELF ANY DIFFERENT!

Love you all – be YOU!

www.thebadkitty.com