Accepting compliments is a gift. For you and the person giving them. We are taught by society that we should not be proud so we tend to shuffle past compliments, barely saying thank you let alone taking a moment to believe that it might actually be true.
Let's say for a moment that it is true. How would you life be different if you believed the nice things people say to you?
One thing about being a cat that lives in the same space as humans is they are much smaller than we are so sometimes we don't see them. I couldn't even begin to count how many times I've tripped over or stepped on a cat. Usually they're smart enough to get out of the way, but sometimes circumstances conspire against us. It's nothing personal, it's unintentional, it just happens.
Life is like that so often for us as well. Someone says something hurtful or they let a door slam in your face or they tell someone else your secret. There are so many things that others do that we take to heart and refuse to forgive.
Take a lesson from the cat, forgive, let it go.
There's one thing you can count on with cats, they are always engaged in what's going on around them - they are always present. Even when they're sleeping it seems like they have a sense that stays awake and they are immediately in the moment, no matter what. This makes them a totally sensual being. Their presence, the way they completely give themselves over to whatever is happening in the moment, they are supremely engaged in life.
How fearless are you?
Do you let difficult experiences stop you?
Do you worry about what others think of you?
Do you let your little voice talk you out of doing things?
Do you let the size of the obstacle affect your determination?
Do you quit before you've even begun?
Cats come in all shapes and sizes and colors, just like we do. Granted, I don't speak cat, but near as I can see, they don't make fun of each other. And they don't compare themselves to each other.
Sheila Kelley is the force behind the pole dancing trend for women’s empowerment and fitness. Her book, The S Factor, has inspired thousands of women, including me. A few years ago she did a Ted Talk called “Let’s Get Naked”. She talks frankly about how important it is for us to be ourselves, to honor our sexuality and to move our bodies. She says it all so well, there’s no need for me to expand. Just watch. And then, let’s get naked!
Whether you are in a relationship or not, l'd like to remind you of the most important person who needs your love - YOU! On Valentine's and every other day, you deserve your own love.
In honor of the day, here are 14 Easy Ways to Show Yourself Love:
When we say "I am - fill in the emotion" - we are expressing that that is our reality. It is how we are living, existing.
In many other cultures/languages they say "I have - fill in the emotion" which indicates that the emotion is a current experience that we are holding for that moment. The big difference between am and have is that with have, you have the option to let go.
There’s something about a new year that gives us hope for self improvement. The chance to correct all the mistakes we’ve made so far. The opportunity to be more than you were and closer to the perfection you envision. No pressure.
And then it all falls apart in a few weeks or, if you’re especially motivated, a few months.
Do you ask for what you want? The only way to get what you want is to ask for it. It sounds so basic and yet so often we expect our mind to be read. "If he loves me, he should know what I want." "I really want that promotion. I'm sure my boss will see that I'm the best person for the job."
When we don't get what we want even though we didn't ask for it, we get all bent out of shape. "I can't believe he got me THAT!" "Really? I'm am so much more qualified than she is!"