When we say “I am – fill in the emotion” – we are expressing that that is our reality. It is how we are living, existing.
In many other cultures/languages they say “I have – fill in the emotion” which indicates that the emotion is a current experience that we are holding for that moment. The big difference between am and have is that with have, you have the option to let go.
Setting Selfish Goals
There’s something about a new year that gives us hope for self improvement. The chance to correct all the mistakes we’ve made so far. The opportunity to be more than you were and closer to the perfection you envision. No pressure.
And then it all falls apart in a few weeks or, if you’re especially motivated, a few months.
Ask for What You Want – Feline Life Lesson #3
Do you ask for what you want? The only way to get what you want is to ask for it. It sounds so basic and yet so often we expect our mind to be read. “If he loves me, he should know what I want.” “I really want that promotion. I’m sure my boss will see that I’m the best person for the job.”
When we don’t get what we want even though we didn’t ask for it, we get all bent out of shape. “I can’t believe he got me THAT!” “Really? I’m am so much more qualified than she is!”
Feline Life Lessons #1
Feline Life Lessons #1: DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
My chocolate Siamese, Marlowe, has this lesson down. He likes to sleep with me at night. He will snuggle right next to me. If he was bigger, you would say he was spooning. He usually wraps up right behind my knees. Unfortunately sometimes he curls up before I’m completely settled. In these cases he will get moved, bumped and even knocked off the bed while I’m trying to get comfortable. It doesn’t faze him at all. He just keeps coming back and laying down. Eventually, I will be settled and so will he.
Judging Things by Their Skin
I’m certainly not immune judging things by their skin. I’ve met many people that I thought were one way from first impressions and discovered I was completely wrong. Whether it’s the way they dress, how they speak, their face, their gender, their race – there are a lot of outer features we use as guides to make an initial judgement.