Archive for September, 2009

It’s hard for we women to gain some perspective on what we really look like.  We usually see something that isn’t really there when we look in the mirror.

Here’s a little activity for you to do.

You deserve this.

Go to the mirror. Full length preferred. Naked is best. Set a timer for 5 minutes. Spend the 5 minutes alone with yourself in the mirror. Do nothing else. No make up application. No brushing your teeth. If the phone rings and you answer it, start over. Do 5 UNINTERRUPTED minutes.

Look at yourself.  Look from head to toe.  Make observations.  See what’s REALLY there.  Notice and be thankful for your body and all the hard work it does for you.  Think about the successes you’ve had and the struggles you’ve overcome.  Celebrate the beauty you see in the mirror.  Recognize how undeniably gorgeous you are just as you are.

At the end of the 5 minutes, look yourself in the eye and say, “You are incredible. You deserve everything you want. You deserve to be cared for. You deserve the very best. You are beautiful. I love you!”

Do you think this is hard?  Not sure you can see yourself as you are without layering on all kinds of judgements?  How about coming out to THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE KITTY one day Seminar on Sunday November 15?

Do you want to: connect with other women,connect with yourself on a deeper level, know your own power, own your beauty and your body, learn sensual dance, including pole dancing – for youself and – WOW – spend a full day just on you

This one day workshop will give you all this and more.  You will have the time of your life with a group of like minded women while learning to dance and access your Senuality.   Imagine living your dreams, loving your body and knowing how incredible you truly are.  You will leave walking taller, swinging your hips, ready to take on the world!

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Go into the world my kitties. Go and spread the word about how wonderful every woman you meet is. Tell others about their beauty because chances are they don’t see it. Share your joy, your passion, yourself with everyone. Be brave.

I simply can’t say it enough – BE BEAUTIFUL, BE YOU! You are all my heroes.

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How many times have you woken up and said, “Wow, weird dream.” How many times have you been talking to someone who shifted the topic by saying, “I had such a weird dream last night.” Every time I say or hear these comments I think, “when is a dream NOT weird.”

Dreams are inherently cryptic. The unconscious is playing around in your brain. It has no logic or coherent timeline. People are identified as someone you know but look nothing like them. You’re able to do things you would never be capable of due to gravity and other natural constraints. Time shifts at will. People morph into animals or pulsing blobs. We try to make sense of them in our logical waking brains, but for the most part it’s pretty much a frustrating folly.

Ironically, all this said, I had a dream that kind of made sense the other night. I am a theatre and movie lover. I’m not big on award shows but I always watch the Oscars. In this dream, I was a presenter at the Oscars. It was a little different than most in that one person said the names of the nominees and then five people came up to talk more about each of those nominees. I was to talk about Helen Mirren. As we all went up, I realized that everyone else had an envelope in their hand, except me. I started to panic and went to a table at the side of the stage to find out where my envelope was. This ruined the flow of the whole show. So someone else took the reins and simply skipped the step we 5 were to do and announced the winner – Helen Mirren. I was mortified. Not only did I screw up the show, I also didn’t get to talk about one of my heroes who ended up with a statuette. I couldn’t even possibly talk to her now after what I had done.

I awoke from the dream and was quite agitated. I went into that space so many of us go to so often – beating myself up for a stupid mistake. I went around and around with it for a few laps in my head before I, in a more awake state, realized, “wait a second, it’s bad enough to do that when you’re conscious, this was a DREAM!”

It struck me how easy it is for us to get into the beat myself up mode. It’s such a useless place to dwell. It does us no good whatsoever.

For one, what’s done is done. Replaying it over and over like a bad piece of music isn’t going to help or change anything. All it will do is make you crazy and self conscious. You’ll become less likely to take chances or to speak up. You’ll start to beat yourself down until you become a shell of yourself.

Also, why dwell on the negative? Think about it – when you do something that doesn’t turn out very well, do you think about the dozen things you did well before or after that one event? No. Human nature is to keep that one moment in the brain in full technicolor on repeat.

Why not pick something you did exceptionally well and put that on the repeato panel? Think about the results: rather than beating yourself down, you’d be building yourself up. You might discover that you’re more willing to take chances and speak your mind. Your sense of self will remain in tact and grow stronger. You will go boldly through your life with confidence knowing that we all make missteps and it’s not such a big deal.

So, my lovely kitties, remember to focus on the positive, even in your subconscious moments. Be Beautiful, Be YOU and celebrate your great moments.

Love ya!

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