One of the most frequent questions I get is “how can I be more confident?” We have so many things around us which can make us feel like we don’t measure up. Our income level, our talent (or lack of) in any given area, our looks, how we act and so on. It’s easy to take a beating if we let these things get to us.
There is a common misconception that, like this picture, confidence means staring down fear, difficulties and being bigger than any obstacle that comes our way.
Confidence is a basic need we all have to feel good about ourselves. It’s not about feeling superior or invincible. It’s simply, and with difficulty, about owning who we are, being comfortable in the knowledge that we all have strengthhs and challenges, taking our best foot and putting it forward every day in every way.
In the face of all the messages out there telling us that we’re not good enough, that we need to be better, how can we have confidence and know that we are perfect and beautiful just as we are – no changes required?
- Practice your sexy walk. For those of you who have taken classes with me, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. In a nutshell it’s holding your head up, swinging your hips and taking long strides. This walk, all on it’s own, as many of my clients have discovered, not only projects confidence, it also creates it.
- Do something every day that causes you to be impressed with yourself. Do things that scares you, that takes you out of your comfort zone, that challenges your perception of self in a positive way. Celebrate how well you did with the challenges you’ve given yourself.
Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it. ~Oprah
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
- You’ve heard this one before over and over and it bears repeating until we all do it – accept compliments graciously. Seeing yourself through the positive eyes of those who care about you will increase your confidence. You will also start to notice that there are more people who see you this way. Concentrate on the positive, and more positive shows up!
Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone (like yourself) or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life. ~Christiane Northrup
- Ask for what you want. Learn that what you want is as valuable as all the requests that others make of you. You are a Bad Kitty (Beautiful Authentic Divine Kompletely Individual Totally True YOU) so remember this quote:
Cats seem to go on the principle that it never does any harm to ask for what you want. ~Joseph Wood Krutch
There are those in your life who love you and support you and thing you’re incredible. There are others who want to tear you down, most likely so they can feel
better about themselves. It’s up to you to love and support yourself and know that you are incredible so that you can attract more of the former, less of the latter and live your life confidently on your own terms.
Don’t waste any more time wishing, comparing or whining. Be YOU. Be your amazing self and love everything you are. It’s your responsibility to love yourself first.
Go confidently my kitties and be bold, beautiful and BAD! (Beautiful Authentic Divine)
Hugs,
Christie