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Cover Image from my New Book

(This is a redo of last year’s birthday post – be sure to read the end for a special offer!)

It was my birthday on the weekend. Thank you, thank you for all your well wishes.

I have a challenge around my birthday. Like those children born right around Christmas who often have no birthday celebration, mine is the day before Valentine’s so I often get one or the other or a combination.

When I was a kid I had hearts and cupids decorations for my birthday. My mom really wanted a Valentine’s baby and just missed, so she made up for it with red decor. When I started dating, I often missed out on having both days honored. Being the day before the “big” one, it was easier to take me out for my birthday as most people would be going out the next day. One gift would do. Flowers were rarely given because they’re so ridiculously expensive.

I met a young woman recently who has the same birthday as I do. I asked her if she had heart decorations for her parties. No, she said, her mom was always very adamant that she understand – and that the men in her life understand – that the two days are totally separate and should be treated as such. Good on ya, mom.

It wasn’t until my 40’s that I found a man who got it. I not only got a birthday and Valentine’s dinner, but I received a beautiful bouquet and handmade chocolates on Valentine’s in addition to the earrings for my birthday! Thank you so much, even though we’re not together anymore, that year was very special.

This year I’m dating a new wonderful man (in 2009 I was single).  I was thinking all last week that this was the first “test” as it was our first February together.  He rose to the occasion and made no attempt to make the two days into one.  I have hit the jackpot in so many ways with J.  He’s a gem that shines brighter than any other.

After so many years of thinking that I would never find what I wanted and settling for “that’ll do/he’ll do”, I started to change my expectations. Before I knew it, I started to find what I wanted in every area of my life.  Romantically, the wonderful J.  My business which is coming together in ways I could only imagine, including getting my first book published.  In case you’re wondering, it’ll be available by the beginning of March.  Get your orders in now. 

It’s called the Law of Attraction or, more recently, The Secret. It’s all about attracting what you want through your thoughts and energy.  Once you learn how to live it and put it into action (action is critical!) it’s amazing what happens.  I’m amazed nearly every day.

The clearer I get on what I want, the faster it comes. I’m amazed almost every day at the things that are coming up. It’s an exciting journey. I’d love to hear about how things are coming together for you this year.  Share your story of how your life is becoming exactly what you’ve imagined and I will do a draw from the stories for a copy of my new book – THE BAD KITTY HANDBOOK; A JOURNEY TOWARD AUTHENTIC FEMALE SENSUALITY. (cover art featured above by Janice Blaine)

Hugs, Christie

www.thebadkitty.com

I don’t have much to say on this other than

YAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!

For it’s Spring 2010 edition, models.com (see more shots on the model.com site) is featuring REAL women with REAL curves and are not photoshopping out the rolls or making them slimmer through computer magic.  Another check in the column of Be Beautiful, Be YOU!!!

It makes me shiver with antici – p – p -p – pation!  Celebrate with me that the fashion industry is getting the message.  And celebrate your beauty along with the beauty of these models.

Hugs!

Christie

www.thebadkitty.com

The message is spreading – pole dancing is fun, great for you and not just for strippers!  It’s becoming mainstream all over the country – and the world.

As many of you know, I teach pole dancing so I can understand the struggles of those who teach it as it’s so often misunderstood.  I still get some looks of shock and/or disapproval even though I’ve been doing it for 5 years.  Even though I don’t teach stripping and focus on the fun dance aspect of it, I still get calls to do exotic dance at stags or have people ask me if they have to take off their clothes in my parties or classes.  I’ve had friends not come to parties because they thought they were going to have to strip.  Even knowing what I’ve done for years, they still don’t quite get it.  A journalist who gave me a great write up recently used the headline: “Stripper Pole Home Party, Anyone?” Sigh.

I continue to tell people, “Pole dancing is like any other kind of dance except that your partner won’t drop you or step on your toes.”

So, imagine my delight when I saw a piece on pole dancing coming to China. In such a conservative culture, pole dancing is making a stand – or a spin.  And imagine my lack of surprise when I heard some of the naysayers giving their opinion on the activity.  As usual, those who make a stink about something probably don’t really understand it and are just having a knee jerk reaction from a lack of experience or information.

Ahh, well, we will continue to spread the word about the joys of pole dancing until we no longer have to apologize for a fun activity that makes us feel great!  If you haven’t joined the movement yet, come on along for the ride!  If you’re in the Edmonton area, join my class coming up in February.  Let’s play together!

Hugs, Christie

www.thebadkitty.com

I was at a bridal show recently.  While watching the children in the fashion show, I had a thought.  Are some of these kids shy or are they insecure about what they’re doing?

When I was growing up, I was considered shy.  So much so that I was able to hide in any crowd large or small.  When asked a question, I would give a short answer and my sister would elaborate.  I was often thought of as aloof or proud because I was standoffish.

At my core I am an introvert.  I like my own company.  I get drained when I’m around people for a long time and need to be alone to recharge.  That said, I also love being with people under certain circumstances.  I love being in front of a large group and with friends for a good chat.  I’m not a recluse by any stretch.

But are introverted, shy and insecure the same?  Not by a long shot.

Despite being an introvert, I can seem very extroverted in certain situations.  Most performers – actors, public speakers, etc – are introverts.  Get them off the stage and they can become quite uncomfortable.  I can talk like mad when I’m presenting, but put me in a room full of strangers at a party and I will feel quite uncomfortable – or insecure.  When I dance I get plenty of attention.  Unlike those who say “Dance like no one is watching”, I dance like everyone is watching as I get a kick out of any situation where I can “perform”.  But start talking to me off the dance floor and my shyness may start to come up.

So what’s my point?  Whether you are naturally introverted/shy or extroverted/outgoing in a situation means very little.  What counts is how secure you feel.  Extroverts can feel insecure and become shy, introverts can feel secure or confident in the same situation and appear outgoing.  You can also be an extrovert feeling insecure who still is outgoing and an introvert feeling secure and still appear shy.  We are very complex creatures!

At this bridal show, there was one girl who during the first show was walking with her shoulders up around her ears, her hands in front of her face.  She looked scared to death.  Many were whispering, “ahh, look she’s so shy.”  In the second show she was bouncing around, grinning from ear to ear, lifting her feet to show off her shoes.  She had developed confidence from round one and was raring to go for round two.  Is she naturally an introvert or an extrovert who was feeling shy?  Hard to know without talking to her.  Was she insecure early in the day?  Absolutely!  Was she feeling confident in the afternoon?  Clearly.

The only way to know the truth about someone is to actually talk to them and find out what drives them.  It’s easy to make assumptions which, unfortunately, are so often wrong!  If only all of those who thought I was aloof or proud would have actually talked to me when I was younger, they would have learned so much.  There are a number of us out there after all – about 25-35% by most estimates.

For more info on introversion, check out the official site.   There are some pretty cool tidbits including quotes.  The list of famous introverts might surprise you!

Now, whether you are an introvert or extrovert, feeling insecure is never fun.  The cool part is, it may eventually go away with experience.  The little girl in the fashion show is a perfect example.  So why not jump in when something makes you feel uncomfortable.  Just go for it and eventually you won’t even remember that insecure feeling – whether it makes you appear shy or not.

Extrovert or introvert, shy or outgoing, the key is, as always, Be Beautiful, Be YOU!!!!

Hugs, Christie

www.thebadkitty.com